Parents-spectateurs : comment créer une expérience positive pour vos jeunes

Note de l’éditeur : Cet article est une re-publication de 2016, mais est toujours d’actualité.

Voilà un an environ, je soulignais l’importance du respect qu’on doit aux arbitres dans une lettre ouverte adressée aux parents. L’accueil a été formidable : j’ai même eu droit à quelques hochements de tête de la part d’officiels de classe internationale (insérer ici un petit cri de fierté). Je crois que l’attitude envers les arbitres est en cours d’amélioration, mais ça ne m’empêche pas d’être réaliste : il y a, et il y aura toujours, plus de parents et de spectateurs que d’officiels à un match. Nous sommes encore trop peu nombreux à accompagner ce changement.

C’est le public assis dans les gradins qui, à mon avis, a les atouts en main pour créer une ambiance positive. Les parents, grands-parents, frères et sœurs, amis et voisins venus encourager leur sportif peuvent décupler le plaisir de tous en faisant simplement attention à leur comportement. Il suffirait de quelques applaudissements à destination de l’arbitre pour que je sois heureuse!

Non, plus sérieusement, rappelons-nous plutôt les raisons qui poussent nos enfants à jouer au soccer. Les encourager est encore plus amusant quand on fait preuve d’une attitude positive envers le match dans son ensemble. Leur satisfaction est alors assez facile à imaginer. Envie de participer à cet environnement positif? Voici quelques idées, basées sur mon expérience, à mettre en pratique.


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Félicitez

Si vous ressentez le besoin de commenter une action particulière au cours du match, commencez par saluer celles bien exécutées, au lieu de faire remarquer les fautes. Voici de quoi stimuler la confiance d’un joueur :

  • Super lancer!
  • C’est comme ça qu’on protège le ballon!
  • Beau travail en défense!

Motivez

Si vous vous y connaissez peu en tactique de jeu, supportez l’équipe dans son ensemble :

  • Maintenez la pression, vous allez marquer!
  • Beau boulot d’équipe!

Décompressez

Un commentaire rigolo est parfois utile pour faire redescendre la pression en bordure du terrain. Ces remarques ou bruits idiots ne sont destinés à personne en particulier, et mieux vaut les laisser à la maman ou au papa comique de l’équipe.

Quel que soit le « hourra » que vous choisissez, soyez sûr qu’il créera une ambiance positive tant sur le terrain que dans les gradins.

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